The tragedy in Orlando has shaken up the city into uniting and standing up for their city beautiful. Waking up to the news on Sunday, June 12th produced a well of emotions that can be quite overwhelming if you aren’t sure how to manage them. Our friends at Upworthy.com posted a blog recently with 11 Small Ways To Feel Less Helpless This Week From a Trained therapist. If you’re feeling lost, helpless and alone and don’t know what to do or where to turn, this could be just what the doctor ordered. It’s going to be a long road. Please, take good care of yourself this week. Seek out the support and resources you may need to deal with how the events in Orlando affected you. We are #OrlandoStrong.
WHAT CAN WE DO TO HELP STOP THE FEELING OF BEING HELPLESS, ALONE, AND STUCK?
To help you hold the weight of this world, I want to offer some actionable suggestions for things you can do this week, both psychologically and socially. Hopefully, these small things will help you process, feel less helpless, and even help those around you this week:
1. ACKNOWLEDGE AND FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. ALL OF THEM.
There’s no such thing as a bad feeling (though some may feel more comfortable than others). Allow yourself to feel today, tomorrow, and this week, and to be with whatever comes up for you around this. Process your feelings safely and constructively.
2. DON’T ISOLATE. CONNECT.
Connect with your loved ones, your local community, your larger communities (even if by phone or over social media). Share how you’re feeling. Talk it out, let others hold space for you while you hold space for them.
3. LIMIT YOUR MEDIA CONSUMPTION IF NEEDED.
This is so important with news being blasted at us from every angle. Monitor how much news and content about the tragedy you can tolerate before it starts to feel like too much.
4. REFOCUS ON YOUR SELF-CARE AND HEALTHY COPING RESOURCES.
Garden, cook, knit, craft, go for a long walk, journal, sit outside in the sun. Do whatever you know helps you feel grounded, safe, and healthy.
5. STICK TO YOUR ROUTINES.
Routines and schedules can be incredibly grounding in times of stress. Keep up your daily and weekly rituals.
Moving your body can help process and metabolize the stress and anxiety you may be feeling. Add in an extra walk or two and really make grounding and focusing on your body a priority.
7. DANCE, DRAW, PAINT, OR PHOTOGRAPH YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT THIS.
Create art and process your experience through creation.
8. TURN TOWARD SUPPORTS AND ASK FOR HELP.
If you need additional resources, book a session with a therapist, speak to your local clergy, or call up a trusted mentor. Let those who care about you help you.
9. GET INVOLVED IN ANY WAY THAT YOU CAN.
Donate blood, send money, participate in activism around gun-control laws, help staff a help line, bring food and water to those in line to donate blood.
10. HOST OR JOIN A COMMUNITY PROCESS GROUP.
Check out your local YMCA or church or university offerings to see if they’re hosting a support group for those impacted by the tragedy. If none are offered, consider hosting one with a friend or local helping resource.
Yes, pray. Whether you believe in God, Allah, Gaia, or Universal Spirit, close your eyes and ask something greater than you for guidance in troubled times. Receive the support that can come from being in prayer.